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Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel

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Esther Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist notable for exploring the tension between the need for security and the need for freedom in human relationships.

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Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? - Esther Perel

Once a cheater always a cheater. True or False? - Sara in Portland, Oregon

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INFIDELITY SERIES: Once Trust is Broken, Can it Be Healed? - Esther Perel

On March 19, 2015 Esther Perel delivered a TEDTalk about affairs. This series is an expansion of that talk, to dive deeper into a few areas of conversation.

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“Para [las parejas eróticamente inteligentes], el amor es un recipiente que contiene tanto seguridad como aventura, y el compromiso ofrece uno de los grandes lujos de la vida: el tiempo. El matrimonio no es el fin del romance, es el comienzo”.

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This is why 90% of relationships don't last | Esther Perel (You can need to know this)

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We all know what infidelity is, but a universal definition is difficult to carve out—especially in the digital age. Is watching porn cheating, or is it only cheating if the person on the other side of the screen is live? Each scenario is subjective, but psychotherapist Esther Perel crystalizes the three elements that lie at the heart of all cheating: secrecy, sexual alchemy, and emotion—even if the person don't think so. Cheating is typically interpreted as a symptom of a bad relationship or of something lacking in a partner, however one of the biggest revelations for Perel in researching her latest book, The State of Affairs, was that happy people also stray. Even people in satisfying relationships find themselves crossing the line they never thought they would. So what gives? They often stray not because they want to find another person but because they want to reconnect with a different version of themselves, she says. It isn’t so much that they want to leave the person that they are with as much as sometimes they want to leave the person that they have themselves become. Esther Perel is the author of The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. See more at estherperel.com.

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ESTHER PEREL

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author who is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a private therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered nearly 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence is a global phenomenon translated into 24 languages. Her newest book is New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (HarperCollins). Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular Audible original podcast Where Should We Begin?










 

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Esther Perel: So I wrote a book in which I wanted not only to look at infidelity from the point of view of the impact and the consequences but also from the point of view of the meanings and the motives.


Why do people do this? Why do people who often have been faithful for decades one day cross the line they never thought they would cross? What’s at stake? How do we make sense of this? How do we grow from that? Can it ever become an opportunity? Can a couple ever glean something that ultimately may strengthen it, rather than only seeing it from the point of view of the cataclysm?


To write a book where I try to understand infidelity doesn’t mean that I’m justifying it. And when one doesn’t condemn it, it doesn’t mean that one is condoning it. But this experience affects so many people. I have worked with hundreds, thousands of people who have been shattered by the experience of infidelity. And I thought there needs to be a better way that is more caring and more compassionate for the crisis that so many people face.


So at the heart of affairs, what is infidelity? That is the question people often ask me. How do I define it? And interestingly there is no universally agreed upon definition of infidelity. And, in fact, the definition keeps on expanding with the advent of the digital. What is it? Is it staying secretly active on your dating apps? Is it watching porn, but not when the other person is live? Is it massage with happy endings? Where is the line? It’s never been easier to cheat, and it’s never been more difficult to keep a secret. So this diffuseness is very much at the heart of trying to define it. But there are three elements that are always present. And the more important one, the constitutive element of an affair, is the fact that it is organized around a secret. The structure of infidelity is its secrecy. That is why it is such a major difference from the conversation about monogamy or consensual non-monogamy. Those are two separate realities.

So an affair is organized around the structured element called secret. The second element is that there is a sexual aura, an alchemy. Not necessarily the presence of sex itself; it’s not the bodily experiences, it’s the energy much more than the performance. And three, that there is an emotional involvement to one degree or another—from a deep love affair to even a transaction in which one pays for the other per...

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Esther Perel with Chris Cuomo: The State of Affairs — Rethinking Infidelity

Esther Perel and Chris Cuomo. Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel takes a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions. Recorded October 9, 2017 at 92nd Street Y.

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Infidelity: to stay or go…? | Lucy Beresford | TEDxFolkestone

We assume that ending a relationship after betrayal is the best course of action. Yet relationship expert and broadcaster Lucy Beresford passionately argues that the more courageous option is to stay and rebuild that relationship.

Drawing from her work with clients (details changed for confidentiality) and from celebrity culture (the rapper Jay-Z spoke publicly about cheating on his wife Beyoncé),

in this talk Lucy identifies:

- the 3 courageous ways the betrayer and the betrayed can start to repair their relationship;

- the 3 things the betrayer MUST do, to rebuilt trust; and

- the Number 1 thing all couples must do to protect their relationship from being blown off course

Lucy Beresford hosts LBC Radio’s Sex and Relationships show as well as the show Love Decoded for dating website eHarmony, and is an Agony Aunt on ITV’s This Morning. She’s the author of 4 books, including the global best-seller Happy Relationships: at home, work and play. She works as a psychotherapist at The Grace Clinic, London and from time to time at The Delhi Psychiatry Centre in India under Dr. Sunil Mittal.

Feel free to get in touch with her on Twitter @lucyberesford or visit her website Lucy is a writer, broadcaster, psychotherapist and documentary maker – in other words, a global storyteller. She hosts LBC Radio’s Sex & Relationships phone-in show, reviews the newspapers on Sky News, and is an Agony Aunt on ITV’s This Morning. She even blogs for Huffington Post UK Lifestyle. She was shortlisted for ‘Dating Expert of the Year 2015′ by UK Dating Awards, is on the Faculty of The School of Life and is a Fellow of the RSA. Interesting fact? Just the once, off Victoria Falls bridge in Zimbabwe, Lucy did bungee jumping. It changed her life – in a fantastic way. Now she bungee-jumps metaphorically, leaping into the unknown and having adventures. Like TEDx…? This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

ESTHER PEREL - TRUST.

Recorded with my iPhone at the UNLEASH World Conference & Expo press briefing. Esther gave a keynote at UNLEASH titled, WHERE SHOULD WE BEGIN? THE FUTURE OF THE WORKPLACE: HOW GOOD RELATIONSHIPS PROMOTE WELL-BEING AND SUCCESS.

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered nearly 20 million views and her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence became a global phenomenon translated into 24 languages. Her newest book is New York Times bestseller The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity (HarperCollins). Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular Audible original podcast Where Should We Begin?

Trained and supervised by Dr. Salvador Minuchin, she has served on the faculty of the family studies unit, department of psychiatry, New York University Medical Center, the International Trauma Studies Program, and the Ackerman Institute for the Family.

Esther is an AASECT certified sex therapy supervisor, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a member of the American Family Therapy Academy as well as the International Society for Sex Therapy and Research. She has run her private practice in New York City for over three decades.

Esther Perel: The Power of Relational Intelligence

Lost at work? In this talk, Esther Perel dives into how relational intelligence can guide us toward well-being and success.

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Esther Perel | The State of Affairs

Famed couples’ therapist Esther Perel takes a fresh look at an age-old taboo in her new book “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.” Buy a copy here:

In “The State of Affairs, Esther argues that affairs have a lot to teach us about marriage. They offer a window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Infidelity is considered one of the most traumatic events that can befall a couple, yet this all too common experience is poorly understood. Using real-life stories pulled from couples visiting her therapy practice over the past decade, Esther implores her readers to engage in a new conversation about the topic, in the hope of gaining a better understanding of the meaning of trust and fidelity.

Psychotherapist Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she holds a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 18 million views and her bestseller “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” became a global phenomenon translated into 24 languages.

Esther appears in conversation with New York Times reporter Patricia Cohen, whose most recent book is “In Our Prime: The Invention of Middle Age.”

Recorded October 11, 2017

INFIDELITY SERIES: Understanding Affairs - Esther Perel

On March 19, 2015 Esther Perel delivered a TEDTalk about affairs. This series is an expansion of that talk, to dive deeper into a few areas of conversation.

For more relational resources, visit estherperel.com
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* Filmed and edited by Nora Tennessen, New York, NY

INFIDELITY SERIES: Before an Affair Happens - Esther Perel

On March 19, 2015 Esther Perel delivered a TEDTalk about affairs. This series is an expansion of that talk, to dive deeper into a few areas of conversation.

Comments welcomed below.

For more relational resources, visit estherperel.com.
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* Filmed and edited by Nora Tennessen, New York, NY

Esther Perel: The First Time

Therapist and author Esther Perel talks her first time going to therapy and how she redefines communication

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The Esther Perel Love Lexicon

Esther Perel is a therapist who has changed our discourse about sexuality and coupledom. Her wisdom often shines through the language she uses to navigate the human theater of love and relationships. We collaborated with Carissa Potter from People I’ve Loved to compile an illustrated lexicon of some of the terms she uses in her On Being interview, from “erotic intelligence” to “play.”

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Esther Perel has a private couples and family therapy practice in New York. She is executive producer and host of the podcast “Where Should We Begin?” She has also given two TED talks and is the author of the books “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” and “The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity.”

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In this video, What is Erotic Intelligence? Ted Talk speaker, Esther Perel, walks us through the powerful emotions we feel in relationships and explains how to achieve contentment in your relationship.

VIDEO HIGHLIGHTS
01:17 What motivates Esther Perel
06:55 Anonymous conversation of couples
08:41 How Esther help couples to solve their intimacy issues
14:04 Why Esther is interested in Sexuality
20:33 What a good relationship means
25:42 Meaning of success to Esther

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Not only is Esther Perel a couples therapist, but she is also a psychotherapist who has worked with many people who experience powerful emotions related to loneliness.

Her theory that the tension between the need to have a stable relationship and the need for self exploration is the main challenge on how to deal with loneliness.

By maintaining sexuality and romanticism in marriage and relationships, Esther Perel believes this is a practical way to achieve happiness and contentment in life.

Esther Perel explains how to have hard conversations with your partner

Renowned couples counsellor Esther Perel shares a compassionate and practical approach to having some of the most difficult conversations a relationship can face on the Ladies, We Need To Talk podcast. Host Yumi Stynes asks: How do you tell your partner you don't like the way they kiss? Or talk about sensitive topics like erectile dysfunction?

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02:52 Mistakes women usually do with their partners
04:20 Stop trying to change things that are not gonna change
08:05 Three doors of entry into sex
10:41 If there would be a new relationship vow like a marriage vow, what would it be?
13:20 How would you deal with someone who is not fully present with you?
15:37 What is the one thing that is a current struggle in relationships and how to resolve them?
19:10 Sex is the glue which makes a relationship really special
22:55 How the spouses became the best friend?
24:46 Is the container in which we're defining relationships today flawed in some way?
30:06 There is only one commitment that is repeated twice in the Bible
34:50 How to deal with the mind?
39:37 Is there a particular exercise or ritual or practice that you think one can integrate their relationship to create a more enjoyable beautiful experience?
44:42 We come on the planet for two needs
46:20 Why sexual compatibility is huge?
52:41 Q/A between Esther Perel, Dan Savage & Marisa Peer
59:12 Closing piece of advice

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Along with having a strong connection, the relationship experts on the panel discussed the importance of couples investing the energy to focus on their sexuality.

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Esther Perel Rethinking infidelity....a talk for anyone who ever loved

Rethinking infidelity . a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel

Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our.

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