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Select the right relationship | Alexandra Redcay | TEDxUpperEastSide

How To Choose A Partner Wisely

We’re given very little guidance on how to choose our partners and tend to leave it to that mysterious force we know as ‘instinct’. However, it truly pays to be a little more rational in this area and work out how our instincts operate and why they push us towards some people and away from others. For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop:
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“How do we choose the people we fall in love with? The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us. Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives. In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage. Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy.…”
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Select the right relationship | Alexandra Redcay | TEDxUpperEastSide

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Are you ready to talk about relationships? Alexandra Redcay is the executive director to Serise, Inc. She can be found at Seriseinc.com. Alexandra has over 18 .

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Tracy McMillan is a television writer (Mad Men, United States of Tara) and relationship author who wrote the book Why You're Not Married...Yet, based on her viral 2011 Huffington Post blog. She also appeared as a dating coach on the NBC reality show Ready For Love. She lives in Los Angeles and is the mother of a 16-year-old guy.

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5 Ways to Choose the Right Partner for You

Do you wonder how to choose the right person wisely? Dating and relationships can lead to happiness! 5 Tips to choose the right partner include not letting fear guide our choices, and not mistaking emotional abuse for passion. We advise you to throw away your checklist, and give people a chance to show who they really are. Don't forget to be honest with yourself and your values; don't wait around for someone who won't change.

Derhally, L. (2015, June 30). 10 Tips for Choosing the Right Partner. HuffPost. Retrieved July 5, 2018.

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Do Opposites Really Attract? - How To Choose The Right Partner

When attempting to choose the right partner, it is important that we understand the point of a relationship. Why do we love? And why is it important to have a relationship in the first place? With the right understanding and motivation, we cannot only find the right partner, but we can build a long-term, healthy relationship.
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Why We Pick Difficult Partners

In theory, we're nowadays allowed to get together with pretty much anyone we like. And yet, at a psychological level, we aren't free to love just any suitable person. We have a type - and strangely and awkwardly, these types are often not those who stand a chance of making us maximally happy. For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop:
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“Theoretically we are free to select the kind of person we love. We might have chosen someone else. We’re not being forced into this by social convention or match-making aunts or dynastic imperatives. But in reality our choice is probably a lot less free than we imagine. Some very real constraints around whom we can love and feel properly attracted to come from a place we might not think to look: our childhoods. Our psychological history strongly predisposes us to fall for only certain types of people…”

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